We all Have Multiple Personalities!

Jun 16, 2022Psychotherapy, Therapy0 comments


We all have multiple personalities. I don’t mean that we all have what’s clinically referred to as multiple personality disorder, but we do all have multiple personalities and we kind of know this. We speak colloquially about it, we’ll say, for example, part of me on Saturday night wanted to just kick it at home and watch Netflix. And part of me wanted to go to my friend’s house ’cause she was having a party. So, we kind of know that we have these different parts of ourselves.

What’s really cool is these different parts of ourselves are reflected in different neural networks. And these neural networks are patterns of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that go together so. Many of us are familiar with this sort of chain reaction between thoughts, emotions and behaviors, and how they get into a feedback loop creating our patterns.

So, we have these different sets of neural networks which we could refer to as parts of ourselves They show up at different times or triggered by different situations in our lives and many of them can date back to our early childhood experiences where we were, trying to navigate our family of origin and trying to figure out how to deal with whatever our circumstances were.

We can tell if we’re in a very early part, meaning then when we’ve gone into a neural network or a neurological pattern that leads back to our very early childhood, when we have no regard for how other people are feeling. When we basically lose our shit and are not really caring in the moment about the impact that we’re having on other people. This usually means that we’re in a very early neural network because developmentally young children are not at the point where they’re able to really take the perspective of others.

What is very cool about noticing and becoming more familiar about these different neural networks or parts that we have, is that we can begin to see who is in the driver’s seat in different circumstances and why these different neural networks get triggered by different scenarios in our lives. Bringing awareness to that can create more opportunity for choice and intention around how we respond to our circumstances, versus just reactivity and reacting to circumstances on autopilot.

You could check out Internal Family Systems and the acronym is IFS, and this is where this work around parts comes from. This notion of parts work has permeated of many different modalities. What I think is super cool is that it’s reflected in the brain, in these neurological patterns, and what’s extra super cool is that we have neuroplasticity and that speaks to the brain’s ability to shift these neural networks. As I’ve said in previous videos, self-compassion is the is the key to shifting these patterns, we need self-compassion in order to give ourselves permission to do things differently moving forward.

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